All frustration(s), anger and sadness, almost always arise,
from the difference between reality and how it should be.
This is the first degree.
Can it get worse?
You are suspecting your neighbour of having stolen your drilling machine. Fact is that you forgot where you put it after he returned it to you. But in your mind, your neighbour was the last one who touched it, and slowly your mind gets convinced that he did not return it. In fact, your mind tells you that every Sunday he’s making some additional income using your tools.
So now you get angry because of the difference between an incorrectly perceived reality and the way things should be (just another theory in your head).
Don’t tell me this never happened to you.
Who didn’t close the fridge?
Who didn’t turn off the lights on the attic?
Of course it wasn’t you, or was it?
That strange phone call, yesterday night,
on your significant other’s mobile phone.
No number, and he was sleeping already,
so you answered it
and you heard a sigh and then click.
It must have been a young woman.
You are very sure of that!
False accusations are sometimes really dishonest ways of silencing people, but most of the time they are just a case of an incomplete reality, taken for the complete truth. And at least two people suffer from this. The accused who believes the world should be a just place and now the world is falling into pieces for no reason at all. And the accuser who gets angry, sad, vengeful or desperate for something that never happened. It is very difficult to be a judge, I’m telling you.
Our memory is not reliable. A reality recalled from the past is always like a Swiss cheese. Even worse: the reality we perceive in the present moment, here and now, is also very flawed and incomplete. We can’t look around the corner, or see what someone else might be thinking, …
Angry for ‘one incomplete unreality’ against ‘the ideal world in your head’. Two opposed unreal concepts, and they can make you angry, or sad or desperate.
Think about it,
but not too long,
or you will conceptualize
what I just wrote
as just another ideal world.
You might even become afraid of fear itself, so to speak,
and you might never trust your memory or your eyes ever again …
(ghostly Halloween laughter)
Pictures taken by bvdb (whoisbert) June 5th 2013 / 1.03pm @Antwerp_Zoo – Canon ixus HS230 – IMG_3238