When getting sick, our body starts a battle of resistance.
This is a healthy and very beneficial resistance.
At the same time our mind is resisting the idea of not being 100% available.
I don’t know for sure whether this resistance of mind is contributing to a lot of stress
in which case this kind of resistance would contribute to feeling more sick,
or the opposite.
It seems to me that in case of small discomforts, the mind keeps the machine running just a bit harder than usual and that this higher gear enables us to be available as usual, without putting stress on all kinds of agendas. But being 110% available can not be continued for a long time. Perhaps more than 3-5 days could be considered unhealthy? Or is it from day 1?
Whether this consideration for agendas is an act of kindness, is an interesting question. In most cases it is a habit by convention, conforming to society. Often a rule well included in our own personal conventional thinking.
In the case that a small discomfort grows into a full blown disease, the resistance of the body is doing its tasks as good as it can. But the extra stress of convening to agendas and putting 110% will certainly bring our physical resistance to a less than optimal state. When the body signals fever and being tired, we should listen and first spend our free time resting, next stop being considerate to bosses and colleagues, even family, and give the body what it needs. If not, the disease could develop more rapidly and violently.
The extra stress of feeling ill but not wanting to surrender makes me a very difficult person to live with. There is an anger, a conflict: agenda against body. The body always wins this battle. But the mind does not want to give up so soon. It does not realize that by resisting, the agendas could be disrupted suddenly and without any escape much more than when listening to the body. Mind does not see that the extra days of no surrender will not be very productive, meetings could probably even become counterproductive because resistance creates frustration and hidden anger. In stead of cancelling two days, it might well become an entire week without being productive.
When not surrendering, I recognize my father in my own self. The grumpy old man who doesn’t want to surrender to the situation, and by doing so forgets to discover the other side of discomfort.
the other side
People are often willing to help when someone is ill, except when there is an angry and grumpy old man trying to resist himself, who criticises whatever others are suggesting might help.
I have recognized this pattern last week in my own self. I have accepted the criticism of my daughters. Perhaps this is a step forward compared to that older angry man I often care for.
Perhaps, …. No, not perhaps, Certainly a change is needed. A change in habits and a change in personal conventions. But will I remember my recent experience and preliminary conclusions when next time I forget to surrender?
How do I recognize the difference between discomfort and disease?
When/Where do I draw the line? When should I stop resisting and favour surrender?
Should I stop resisting from the very beginning and cut back when feeling minor discomforts, and in doing so getting a reputation?
resisting the silent pressure by our societies
When people caught a bronchitis, back in 1925, they could/would take 1 month of leave to recuperate. They took it for their own benefit. The employer often disrupted paying a salary when sick.
These days we are not supposed to interrupt our agenda for “minor problems“. Take a pill and be happily productive. And of course, yes, we can work from home too. Making it even more difficult to take 2 days of rest. Often the employer has to continue paying salaries for a longer time, and always on the assumption of abuse of the system, looks down on all who take leave. Also on those with a real problem.
Where should society draw the line? Should the first two days of leave be unpaid, in order to cut abuse?
Or should there be a program to make workers, employees and employers aware of the consequences of unethical behaviour?