Usually when we get upset , or emotional, by one thing or the other, triggered as it were, we want to express ourselves so urgently that our emotions take over.
Many of us have never learned to express themselves well, if at all. I’m still learning today. The next step is to learn to express yourself in a polite way. And there I still have to learn a lot.
And the last step is to tune your expression in such a way that the listener doesn’t get upset, neither by the news, neither by the messenger, which is often not possible due to impolite listening.
Seems all humans share that old friend …, anger.
if you love him, he’ll become powerless,
if you harness his energy, if you dare,
he will change character and become your servant
It is often fear that leads to anger,
the fear that we would lose some object of desire
desire itself being neutral, but fear is not.
Loss of an object of desire is neutral, Reacting is not.
Fear leads to anger, and anger leads sometimes to survival
being scared to death, leads to death .. it immobilizes.